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Maybe it was a long simmering argument or maybe a sudden flash of anger. How ever it happened you



and your partner have split. And you are determined to get your ex back.

You feel so strongly that this break up is all a mistake that you want to contact your ex not now, but right now. By phone, email, text or in person you are determined to get in touch with your ex and explain that this break up is not right.

But this is a critical time. If you try to talk to your ex now, so soon after the break up, you could put an end to this relationship forever. It will be difficult for you but you must have patience, you have to wait.

The Split Happened for a Reason

There is a reason, or more than one, that you and ex have parted ways. This may all seem like a mistake to you but if you contact your ex now and demand to be heard you will only make the situation worse.

Difficult as it may be for you, now is the time to play the waiting game.

How long you have to wait before initiating contact is a decision only you can make. The circumstances of the break up will help you to judge.

If the problems that caused the split were long simmering, wait longer. If there was shouting, recriminations, anger at the time of the split, wait even longer.

Carefully consider how long the cooling off period should be before you initiate contact. When you have decided on a period of time that you think is appropriate, think again, and then double it.

Use Your Time for Self Improvement

This waiting period is not lost time. Use this time to look at your own foibles and engage in some self-improvement.

Don’t beat up on yourself but do look at the role you played in the break up. You need to understand your own faults and mistakes. When the time is right and you are talking to your ex about reunion you have to be able to say that you are aware of these problems and are really trying to make corrections.

The best relationships are often the ones that nearly failed. The patience, self-control and practical self-improvement you practice now will pay off with a renewed and better relationship with your ex in the future.